Sunday, 19 October 2014

Go read this (if you haven't already)...

Well here's a jolly interesting piece on Caged Monkey's blog, Lady M gives her views on sex during menstruation ... HERE

BOOK SPOTLIGHT: Mistress Severity by Alex Jordaine...

I have reviewed Alex Jordaine's books on my blog before, I very much enjoyed the first two but struggled with the third and never got too far into it. This is the fourth one (though I do have the fifth one on my shelf already) and I must say it has been a thoroughly enjoyable read.


I like the simplicity of the story, featuring just five characters and set entirely in a dungeon the book plays out almost like one long scene, even though it's set over several days/weeks. As you might expect, this scenario is facilitated by the usual 'inheritance' back story which is brushed over very quickly and not over analyzed and allowed to fester into an irritating cliche. Which it could, but that's probably just me...
On occasion the descriptions of the sex and beatings are a little... one dimensional, but you could probably say the same about my writing. There's only so many ways you can describe someone being flogged after all, and I'd rather that than the author getting terribly flowery about it, nothing turns me off quicker than an author eulogising like the very Bard himself. After all, nobody jerks off to poetry - do they?
Rather than give you the lowdown on the plot, it would probably be easier to post a photo of the back cover...


That tells you pretty much what you need to know to be honest, suffice it to say that I've enjoyed reading it and it makes me wonder whether I should now progress to book five or revisit book three and see if I get on with it better this time?

CORRECTION!

It seems I have got it wrong, having looked at my shelf, it seems Alex has in fact written six novels, not five. which are

Mistress of Torment 2009
Naked for the Mistress 2010
Mistress Extreme 2011
Mistress Divine 2012
Surrender to the Mistress 2012
Mistress Severity 2013

I think there's one on Amazon from 2014 called Bound to the Mistress too, but I don't have that one.


Saturday, 18 October 2014

Another cycle ends, another cycle begins...

Well it's been a busy old day on the blog today hasn't it? But Mistress and I still found time to go to bed late in the afternoon. which resulted in Mistress having another really hard orgasm. I knew it was going to be another good one from the second her muscles started to tighten, and it surely was. ;)
I didn't know for sure that Mistress was going to let me cum today, but I had a sneaking suspicion she might. She was certainly enjoying herself teasing me, and I got the hardest ball slap yet from her (which was cool, hehehe). After a while Mistress straddled me and sank down on my cock and actually I found it surprisingly easy to hold back, indeed, this time I had no troubling begging to see her gorgeous breasts and Mistress graciously dropped her bra just below her nipples. She looked amazing riding my cock, and she was clearly trying hard to get me close, I just didn't know whether she was going to let me cum or not.
But as I got close Mistress told me she wanted me to cum inside her and a short time later I had a very intense orgasm, pumping her pussy full of cum in the process. Needless to say it was only a matter of seconds before Mistress was straddling my face and I was pushing my tongue as deep inside her as I could. Mistress stayed there for a little while, longer than usual, which was great because often she doesn't give me that much time to clean her pussy.

Looking at my stats, it's clear that if things stay the way they have been so far (since April) I am going to finish the year on less than twenty orgasms total. Tellingly, if you look at the years so far, years one and two Mistress averaged five orgasms for every one of mine, then in the third year she averaged six orgasms for every one of mine, and so far this year she's averaged seven orgasms for every one of mine. So it's clear that things are definitely moving in the right direction.

And so another period of denial begins, who knows when it will end, probably not even Mistress R. Not yet anyway...

Linked Out!

Every so often I get emails telling me that this person or that person wants to connect to me on Linked In. I'm sure this is all very lovely, but I don't actually know how I got on Linked In, nor do I particularly want to be on it. But I hope that the people who are requesting my 'friendship' or whatever it is (sorry I don't do Facebook either so I don't really get it) aren't offended by my continuing apathy to their requests. I am more than happy to email people (pe.rob.666@gmail.com) and I usually respond to comments left on the site, I just don't do social media.

NEW POLL: What do you like about my blog?

Time for a new poll, what I'd like to know is what you like about the blog (you can choose multiple answers). Time is precious and I'd like to use it effectively, I post a lot but I hardly ever write stories, should I be spending my time writing instead? Let me know what you like. Thanks in advance.

Your chastity lifestyle is what you make it...

A few days ago a reader called Someone NSFW posted this comment on my blog:


I am interested in both: chastity and mostly femdom, but do not participate in it. May be when i shall be 40-45 years old. I read some blogs from it beginning to present tense and my opinion - i am not ready for this, not ready to live whole life submitting woman, wearing cock cage 4-6 month, etc. I found many interesting and useful things and tips in these blogs. Useful in everyday life and in sex. And i try it. But. In every blog i read "be careful you wish for", because of it i am not ready too.

It is very interesting to read how chastity progress. Most of authors began from an experiment (2-5-10 days of chastity) till full chastity (i can't believe it).
it is interesting to read such blogs, and your blog is no exception.
What i would like to try is devotional sex (when man do not cum 2-3-4 days, without cock cage). My wife is not yet ready for devotional sex. Why i want it? Because time when we fuck all night left in past. Our sex sometimes became routine. It is unacceptable for me.
About masturbation: it is forbidden. And it is self imposed rule. I think when i masturbate, it's not fair to my wife.


Some of you have probably already read it, and my (and Harry's) responses but I thought it was worth reposting and discussing here again.

This is not meant to be disrespectful or critical of the poster (who is obviously not posting in their first language) and my comments are rather more aimed at the similar casual reader in general rather than directly at 'Someone NSFW'.

It's good that the poster acknowledges he is not ready to live his whole life submitting to a woman, and wearing a cock cage 4-6 months at a time. But then neither am I. By 'whole life submitting to a woman' I presume he is talking about a full-on FLR. Again, definitely not on board with that. 
I fear that people read these blogs, some of which are utter bollocks frankly, and take it all at face value and as if it is 'chastity law'. I'm not saying that there are no chastity belt wearing sub males living in a full time FLR, but a) probably less than there are blogs about it, and b) it doesn't have to be like that.
Some people need to know that FLR's and Chastity are not mutually inclusive or exclusive. You can be in chastity with or without an FLR and you can have a FLR without any chastity play whatsoever. 
Also, there is nothing to say that chastity has to include any kind of device. Even now people still leave the occasional comment about my 'cock cage' which rather belies the fact that I have never hid the fact that I do not wear one. 
I know I sound like I'm ranting already, but this is because it irritates me that chastity is perceived (and obviously) portrayed as being a one-size fits all, no getting out of this once you start deal. Which is nonsense. Why does it bother me so much? Because all the bullshit makes it that much harder for someone who wants to try this way of life to get started.
How many times have you heard 'Well I tried to get my wife interested in chastity, but she looked on the internet and she said she doesn't want to whip me/keep me locked up for months at a time/cuckold me/insert your own extreme situation here...'.
As Someone NSFW mentions, most people graduate from going 3 or 4 days to start with, which is hardly a long time for most people over thirty. I think part of the problem is that there is this common fiction in the chastity community that once women see their chaste man in a better light (due to his chastity making him a better partner - which it can do) she will immediately decide the best thing to do is to keep him locked in steel 24/7/365, as if he has no say in the matter.
So yes 'be careful what you wish for', but be reasonable. 
And be sceptical, when you read a blog think about what the person has written. After a while it doesn't take long to weed out the fantasists (though I must say it seems there are less about than there used to be). Very occasionally I get a comment calling me a bullshitter, but I think it's clear from my blog that this is not the case. What have I to gain from lying? I haven't monetised my blog, you don't get pop-ups or adverts here. And if I was making it up, which I'm not, don't you think I would have moved things on by now? Wouldn't I be posting photos of my Steelheart or spicing things up with tales of cuckolding etc?
I honestly don't think that most women will go from a vanilla sex life to a full-on heartless chastity-domme in five minutes. Mistress R and I started chastity play about 4.5 years ago. The first year was very relaxed, and it was just a case of not letting me cum for a few days so that when we had our Femdom session I was desperate to cum. 
Can't help chuckling at that... desperate to cum after a few days.... oh the naive innocence of it!
This progressed with the aid of a dice, to up to 12 days (IIRC), but it was still a huge leap to go from that to full time chastity and Mistress's reaction to the suggestion surprised me because despite the supposed 'benefits' to the woman and the experience we had already had with chastity, she was extremely reluctant to go down that route.
Which is why, even now, I sometimes get worried about it and seek reassurance that she really does want to continue in this way, because I don't want her to be living this and secretly hating it or resenting it or wishing it would go away. At the end of the day our relationship is more important than this blog, femdom or chastity.
What I'm trying to say is that, far from dropping yourself into a situation from which you then find it difficult to extract yourself, it will probably take considerable effort and patience on your part to get it to where you want it to be. And this may change over time anyway. 
In the beginning, I wanted to be denied and I was disappointed when Mistress let me cum. I wanted to set records and ache for release. It took a long time for that feeling to change and for me to want to be allowed to cum, it wasn't until Mistress got comfortable enough with the situation that I knew with confidence that any chastity period could last at least 3-4 weeks. I still prefer it to last at least thirty days, because that's about when it starts to really kick in for me, it gets harder to hold back when Mistress is riding my cock and I love that feeling of struggling to hold back for her. Which isn't to say that every chastity period will last that long, some will last longer some will be shorter. But the difference is when you are starting out you are constantly thinking 'don't let me cum, don't let me cum', and now I'm thinking 'let me cum!' That wasn't something that I expected or that I found anyone explained in their blogs. 
The fantasy of chastity is that the woman grows steadily more 'evil' (for want of a better word), teasing the chaste male until he is a quivering wreck, while enjoying his tongue relentlessly. And who wouldn't want that? But in my experience it won't be a sudden, 'oh my god, what have I done' situation. It will be a long and sometimes difficult process, and something that you will have to encourage and provide constant reassurance to facilitate, because most people worth anything want their partner to be happy, and that includes your wife/girlfriend/partner.
The point is, what your chastity relationship entails is up to you to decide together, and you can take things as far as you both decide, but there's no ready made rules you need adhere to. You absolutely do not need to wear a device unless you want to, despite what some may think, and at the end of the day what everybody else says is irrelevant, it's your relationship, your sex life and if you are happy with the way it is then anyone who says you are doing it 'wrong' can go and fuck themselves. 

Wednesday, 15 October 2014

So fucking good!

There are times when I question my choices, times when things aren't gelling well, and then there are times when I know taking our marriage down this path was the best move I ever made. Tonight was very much in the latter category, much like last night actually.
I started out kissing Mistress's beautiful feet before slowly working my way up her grapefruit scented legs to her delicious, inviting pussy. Mistress smelled and tasted wonderful as always and by the time I settled between her thighs my cock was throbbing hard (Mistress had been teasing it with her foot previously).
I was a little nervous that tonight might not quite live up to last night, as Mistress had a very hard orgasm last night, not unusual after a few days without. But I needn't have worried, she seemed very satisfied indeed, which made me very happy.
Like last night, Mistress wasted little time in getting me hard, and so the teasing, slapping, sucking, biting started again. Several times I got close to the edge, but every time I was about to warn her, Mistress seemed to instinctively know when to slow down, it was uncanny...
Like last night Mistress seemed to be enjoying herself a lot teasing me, and the more she got into it the rougher she was with my cock and balls, and I absolutely fucking loved it! I was so hard by the end it was crazy, and as we kissed and she squeezed my cock and balls for what seemed like the last few times I begged to be allowed to worship her gorgeous asshole.
Mistress straddled my head, facing away and lowered her ass onto my face, giving me a perfect view of where I was so desperate to push my tongue. She grabbed my cock again and I sank my tongue into her delicious, sexy ass, it was absolute bliss! Mistress lifted off and I thanked her thinking that was my lot, but Mistress sank down one more time and I pushed my tongue even deeper into her ass as she jerked my cock again. Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm!!!!!!!!!!
Neeedless to say, Mistress didn't let me cum, and we finished the session holding each other tightly, my cock rubbing and throbbing against her thigh while I kissed her lovely breasts. It was fantastic, to say the very least and I really, really loved how much she was into teasing me, and how rough she was getting with my balls. I wouldn't want that from the start, but the more turned on you are the better it is.... so fucking good!!!

Tuesday, 14 October 2014

Amazing teasing and a lovely orgasm for Mistress R...

Mistress and I have had a busy weekend (as I think I mentioned) and so we'd rather fallen behind with our quest for more orgasms for Mistress R, before tonight Mistress had only had three so far this month and that really isn't cutting the mustard!
But we made up for it tonight, Mistress had a wonderful orgasm on my tongue round about 8:30, after which she started teasing me something rotten. Right at the start Mistress asked me how many days it had been since I'd been allowed to cum and she was rather surprised when I said it had been thirty days.
It does seem to have come around quite quick, and I can tell you when I woke up this morning I could tell that it was getting up there, but I was good and I didn't touch my cock. Mistress did more than touch it, she stroked it, bit it, sucked it, slapped it... at one point she was slapping me quickly, giving me three or four slaps to the cock and then one to the balls, several times (I really liked that) then she just slapped my balls four or five times in a row (I really liked that too!), I'd love her to get me really close and then do that over and over until I came (one way or another, ruined or not). That would be so awesome!
But no, instead, just when I was getting close-ish, Mistress decided she wanted to ride my cock! It wasn't easy, but I managed to hold back... even as I reached up and squeezed Mistress's gorgeous breasts through her sexy black bra. That's control, I can tell you! But as much as I wanted to beg Mistress to take her bra off and let me see her riding me totally naked, I knew it would push me over the edge, so I bit my lip and closed my eyes instead.
Mistress was really enjoying herself riding me, and it was so hot when she bent down and kissed me as she slid up and down my aching cock. Oh it's a tough life being a sub! :) I really didn't know how much more I was going to be able to take and I kind of thought Mistress might be thinking about letting me cum inside her, but then she lifted off and straddled my face, allowing me to lick her delicious pussy again, while my cock throbbed in mid-air.
Instead of sliding back down onto my cock, Mistress then knelt beside me and started really pumping my cock, actually this might have been when all the really good ball slapping started (it's a little hazy), and I really thought Mistress was going to either let me cum or ruin another orgasm. But as soon as I said that I was getting close, Mistress slowed right down and just teased me with her fingertips, telling me 'We don't want that do we'.
Mistress allowed me a few seconds to ease back from the edge, then gave my cock and balls some very firm tugs and squeezes, I love how much more confident she is getting about slapping and squeezing my balls, it's so fucking hot! Eventually Mistress called time and we held each other tight, kissing passionately as my poor cock throbbed against Mistress's stomach. Then I begged to be allowed to lick Mistress's pussy again and she lay on her back and opened her silky thighs as I slid down the bed to taste her again. Mistress was still really, really wet and she tasted absolutely gorgeous. I would have loved to have licked her to orgasm all over again...sigh. Maybe tomorrow.