If you read my blog on a PC or Laptop then you may have noticed that at the bottom of the page there is a reading list which posts updates from other Chastity/Femdom blogs. Sadly a lot of the blogs listed are inactive, but I keep them there in the hope that one day they will return. Occasionally I go through them and realise that some blogs no longer even exist ('Femdom Fiancé' for example), which is a shame because I really liked that one...
One of the links that is pretty active is 'Chastity Mansion'. I don't generally read these posts very often because for the most part it's a lot of talk about chastity cages, which as we know, isn't something I have to think about. But sometimes there are interesting topics of discussion there and today I came across one such where a thread was talking about trying to get 'vanilla' wives on board with 'chastity'.
I can totally sympathise with this as I know it's hard and it has taken an awfully long time to get where we are, and that didn't even include using a cage (maybe it would have been quicker if we had?) and I wouldn't describe Mistress as 'vanilla' either. She's not a complete pervert like I am, true... but she's definitely not 'vanilla', and she's getting 'better' every day. 😊
It is interesting to read about people's experiences though, not just the person that started the thread but also the replies which suggest that if these 'vanilla' wives give it a go, after a few months they start to come round as they start seeing the benefits and take charge.
A lot of the problems seem to stem from miscommunication and misunderstandings between partners, and also 'adherence to the norm' because that's what has been drummed into people since forever. With anything else being seen as 'weird'.
Reading these threads it seems that it's not uncommon for women to not enjoy penetrative sex (either because they find it painful or because it simply doesn't 'work' for them) but at the same time reluctant to try a different way because it's 'weird' or because they simply don't believe that their partner is okay with not having penetrative sex because OF COURSE HE DOES, ALL MEN WANT PENETRATIVE SEX.
Well, speaking as a man who can't even remember the last time he had penetrative sex and definitely hasn't cum inside his wife for about six years, I can honestly tell you that this is one guy that doesn't feel cheated or like I am missing out. Indeed a few years ago Mistress and I had a talk about this and she admitted she's never been a big fan of PIV sex, and that when she thinks about it and realises she doesn't have to do it anymore AND she has a man who absolutely loves going down on her as often as she wants she 'feels like she's won the lottery'.
And that was before she started punishing me for illegal touching and hurting my cock and balls regularly... 😏
That's honestly what she said, which made me extremely happy then and still does today. And honestly, I can say without a second's hesitation that I have never been more in love with my Mistress than I am now and I think our sex life is better now than it has ever been and I hope she feels the same.
So yes 'chastity (and Femdom) is a bit weird, maybe... but so what? Isn't it better than two people having 'vanilla' sex because that's what they feel they have to do because they don't want to be 'weird'. I think it's a bit weird sticking those huge Dragon dildo's up your arse, but if that's what you like then go for it. If that makes you happy then so what? If your partner gets off on it so much the better...
I remember, one of those long deleted blogs (A Good Husband, I think it was called) that I used to love reading, that was a bit 'extreme' (Good Husband and his wife got off on abusing each others genitals and he would post photos of his balls looking swollen and sore and his wife's pussy looking very red after he'd whipped it or used a belt on it) and okay, perhaps that's a bit too weird for most people - but I bet their relationship was amazing, because it has to be - you couldn't do something like that with someone and not feel deeply connected.
Maybe that's a bad example, but the point stands. You don't have to just go with what people see as normal, and it's a shame if people are afraid to try something that may be enormously beneficial. Then again, perhaps this is generational, perhaps the fact that the younger generation have grown up with more exposure to porn is a good thing in a way because they are probably more open to thinking differently (we know that feet are definitely a thing these days, I bet I would be considered much more 'normal' with younger men than men of my own, ahem 'vintage').
But then I was exposed to porn from quite a young age (14 or so) and it never did me any harm. Quite the contrary in my opinion. Anyway, I'll let you carry on with your day now, just wanted to share these thoughts...
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